The Real Reason You Feel Stuck

Getting organized seems like it should be easy enough. Something good you can do for yourself. Yet you don’t start, or you start and give up fairly quickly.

It’s about the self-talk. You talk yourself right out of it because you are afraid.

You are afraid of many things. Most of them are not real but blown out of proportion just in case. It’s the default way we protect ourselves – avoiding fearful things. Including failure on many levels.

When it comes to organizing and simplifying your life or work, it usually looks and sounds like “I just don’t have the time,” or “just as soon as…” You are resisting! Some ways to deal with resistance can be found here.

The three fears almost every one of my clients have experienced all come down to fear of inadequacy.

It hasn’t been true one time. So I want to put each in its’ place so you know where it is if you ever actually need it but hope you will be able to let the fear go once you recognize it for what it is.

So many people are afraid of doing it wrong.

Fear of not knowing how or that you are doing it wrong is really a worry that you are incapable of achieving something as simple as putting away your folded laundry, or that you will put the laundry away but forget to do the dishes. You know, fear that something, you can’t quite remember, will be overlooked.

Here is the thing. No one is born knowing how to organize. It is a learned skill and if you can drive a car, you can get organized. Take a little time to learn easy systems and you will automatically be less likely to overlook things.

A good system will fit with the other systems and routines in your world so they will work together. Connecting the task with a big picture why will help you know if you need to do it all. That connection is explained more in Clutter is Unmade Decisions

Working with an organizer can help you save time by taking a lot of the trial and error out of the learning curve. A good organizer can customize on the fly based on your space, your way of thinking, and your specific needs.

Running out of time and stream is another frequent fear.

If you focus on something and it takes longer than you thought, it can feel like other things will fall through the cracks and that organizing is not as important as the stuff that has become urgent. In other words, overwhelming!

There are two reasons you run out of time before you finish your organizing project. One is trying to do too much at once. The other is the slowness of your decision making. Figuring this one out allows you to anticipate lots of things before they become urgent.

Working with an organizer can help you save time by taking a lot of the trial and error out of the learning curve. A good organizer can customize on the fly based on your space, your way of thinking, and your specific needs.

Speed up your decision making by picking criteria for decisions.  Having criteria gives you a sense of freedom to let go. The consequences have been preconsidered, so you can take action. Practice by making easy decisions first then the more difficult ones.

Contradictory as it may seem, you will get farther in your organizing endeavors by doing less at a time. Instead of organizing the kitchen, do just the upper cabinets in one session. Then work on the lower ones at another time.

By working in smaller segments, you can make adjustments when needed so complete failure isn’t actually possible. Not so scary any more. Right?

The key to success is to honor the parts you have already finished. Consider them done and working for you. Then move to the next area.

The third fear is the fear of discovering yourself and coming face to face with what’s possible on the other side of the clutter.

Bad news, this one is true! Good news, it’s always exactly what you need and can be anything you want.

Bottom line is, the world will not end either way, but your daily situation will greatly improve if you face your fears and pick up your toys.

Quick Start Organizing Series

Part I

Handing Off Work to Free Up Time

Quick Start Organizing Series

Part III

Five Ways to Declutter Fast